I’m back to blogging again!

I am so happy to be writing again!

The ability for me to write and share my stuff on my blog again is liberating. It became so tough for me to continue with my blog because the purpose of a blog is to share my thoughts and true feelings. It’s so tough to share your thoughts and true feelings on a blog in a time where people can take your stuff and share it out of context. I have been so hurt in the past by friends and people I really loved and trusted that I decided to take a break and just deal with my heart before I make a mistake and start diarising all my private things in my blog. I didn‘t want to humiliate those people in that way. If I did that I knew I would be focusing on negativity and all I needed was to be strong and build on the character I needed to start living my life again.
It is really tough to live a life with no real friends or people to share stuff with but honestly I have become so used to it that these days I think that having friends is a useless thing. Friends do nothing for me.
So, back on the grind! I am happy that after such a long time I’ve got my groove back.

I recently read Bonang Matheba’s blog and these are some of the points I took with me from  what I read; (not that I didn’t know all this, but it was a reminder that I dearly needed and for that I am grateful).


In order to make your dreams come true, you need to:

·       Decide on what it is that you want exactly

·       Be clear about what you want

·       Have a detailed plan

·       Keep a diary and write all your goals down

·       Never be scared to ask for help, advice or guidance from others

·       Work on your goals every single day.


Further on, I had been thinking a lot about making my own dreams come true but had been procrastinating so badly. Reading her blog reminded me of who I used to be, how my life used to be and how I had been an over-achiever all my life before I enrolled for my full-time studies. A lot happened. I fell off the wagon of success so badly I almost stopped believing in myself. I fell in love and pushed my own dreams aside. She reminded me that: “…It’s very easy to lose momentum and dwell on the noise, the hate and things that don’t build but destroy.
Keep a journal of all your goals, the progress made and how far you still have to go. We all need to go back to basics every now and then, and be reminded of all the dreams and why you started the things you are currently doing. The purpose, the intention and the reason you embarked on this journey in the first place; whatever the journey might be. It’s soul-crushing to just do things for the sake of doing without purpose or guidance. Always write everything down in detail and use it as a reference point every now and then.”


I also have handwritten notes on my walls at home, visuals and a calendar to help me stay on track when it comes to my dreams. And also this dark, past experience has made me realise that a path that lacks guidance or an end goal can easily be side-tracked by human beings or one’s own lack of focus. It’s vital that you aren’t worried about what other people are doing or saying. Or put other people first to the point that you forget about yourself and your own purpose. It is true that, “Most accomplished people in the industry (and life in general) are focused on what they are doing, how they can better themselves and better their tomorrow. They zone in on their objectives and drown out the noise, which is one of the most important life rules and the secret behind a lot of my accomplishments.


DREAMING AND WINNING


Always remember; you can’t stop dreaming big just because it makes some people uncomfortable. You can’t stop working hard to achieve those dreams just because it exposes other people’s laziness and lack of ambitions. And you definitely can’t stop your commitment to your ever-evolving goals just because you forgot where and WHY you started or that you’ve allowed family, friends, or the world to derail you. If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. Remember the true value of hard work and patience
Always remember to enjoy the ride…”


And I sure will do.